But if the relationship is serious, then obviously she must be told and realistically you should expect that she will be hurt and angry, at least for a while. You say that you haven't been with a man for more than a year, which suggests that you feel lonely. Why not join some groups or classes, or even try online dating as a way to meet other people with similar interests? You could even try to get your newly single daughter involved.
I hope in this way you are able to find another fulfilling relationship, without destroying the bond with your daughter. Can you honestly imagine a family Christmas in six months' time where she happily waves you and this man off to bed together? Ditch this man before your daughter finds out and decide on whether or not you're going to confess depending on whether you think he'll tell her at some point. You can then sit and wait for someone else who isn't going out with your daughter to come along or take this as a sign that you need to try dating. Or you can aim for a committed, long-term relationship with your daughter's ex and she'll hate you.
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My mother did the same In similar circumstances my mother did the same 11 years ago. A, London Don't ever tell If you can't even trust your own mother not to betray you, who can you trust? JS, via email Cut off contact This man has broken your daughter's heart and made a fool of you. CS, Crewe Tell her the truth Theoretically, you have not done anything wrong. HN, London Are you lonely? NG, London Get out there and start dating again Can you honestly imagine a family Christmas in six months' time where she happily waves you and this man off to bed together?
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Don't ever tell
My daughters ex was over almost everyday when they were dating. They broke up about a year ago. I got a divorce from my husband when my daughter was really young. Her ex started texting me a month ago and now were dating. Are you sure you want to delete this answer?
I'm dating my daughters ex-boyfriend?
Ask your daughter how she feels about it. Assuming the guy is a legal adult, you're having a fling. Guys aren't the only ones that do that Not only is it hurtful to your daughter to date her ex; just like the unspoken rule that girls don't date their friends ex. But I imagine that you have a large age gap, and it may not be healthy for either of you, I can see maybe a 10 year age gap but nothing more.
After 10 years you have a bit of a generational difference and I don't see how it would work out in the end. This has to be causing a lot of drama with you and your daughter. But other than that The only real issue is, how old is this guy?
I can't say if it's right or wrong. But people are definitely going to perceive it as wrong is he's like 18 and you're 32 or something. And at that point, I would say there's too large of an age gap there for it to be appropriate. But if you're daughter was dating an older guy.
Say he was 25 and you're I can't say either way.
But it's definitely a complicated situation that people will frown upon. That's not even funny. Every single question you have asked has been about the Jonas brothers or MTV. If you are a grown woman with a grown daughter, you seriously need help to grow up. If you are a 13 year old likely you are trolling with this question. Go to your room.